You honking at ME?! Confessions of a road warrior

Road warriors. I see them everywhere. And all too often, I must confess, I’m one as well.

An epidemic of rage

The headlines scream that road rage is an epidemic. A recent study by AAA concurs, stating that 80 percent of drivers admitted to expressing aggression, anger or road rage behind the wheel.

This increased hostility isn’t surprising. The roads are crowded and, in many places, in poor condition. We’re often stressed, over-extended and over-caffeinated, and so are the other drivers.

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Row17, CC BY-SA 2.0, via Wikimedia Commons

Even worse, we’re all distracted. We talk on our phones, eat meals, and even groom ourselves behind the wheel. And then there’s texting.

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Texting while driving, public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

Despite the safety campaigns, the huge fines if we’re caught, and the grisly news images of mangled cars and grieving families, many of us still text and drive.

No wonder we’re so angry. Like I said, I feel that anger and aggression, too. I get impatient with the lousy roads, the traffic jams, and all the drivers who aren’t actually driving. And yet…

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Looking in the (rearview) mirror

Road rage isn’t a “me-versus-them” dynamic. I’m not blameless here. I also participate in this culture of rage:

  • I honk.
  • I make crude gestures.
  • I tailgate slow drivers.

I, too, am a road warrior. I’m in that eighty percent.

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Teen checking rearview mirror, CC BY 2.0 via flickr

And truth be told, I sometimes let myself get distracted, whether by a phone call, the weather report, or that new store that just opened up. I’m causing other drivers to slow down, or maneuver around me, or honk, or swear, or gesticulate. I’m part of the problem.

Kindergarten for drivers

Sharing the road isn’t a new concept. But this week it took on a new meaning for me.

While driving through a construction zone, I suddenly remembered a lesson from kindergarten. We all had to share the toys at play time. This rule was gently but strictly enforced. Not sharing meant having to sit by yourself, watching everyone else have fun.

What if I applied that rule to driving, I wondered. After all, the road does not belong to me. It belongs to everyone, including other drivers, cyclists and pedestrians. To earn the privilege of driving on that road, I must share it with them, just like I shared those toys at play time.

I’m working on being mindful of sharing, and putting the road warrior in a time out.

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NYC Share the road sign, public domain, via Wikimedia Commons

You can read about the study here: AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety

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